Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

If you find yourself getting dates but they never turn into relationships, you may be over-indexiing "dating skills" and undervaluing "relating" ones. In this episode, Julie breaks down the difference between dating skills (the spark) and relating skills (the glue), and why most people obsess over chemistry but ignore the skills that actually build connection. If you’re cycling through almost-relationships, or wondering why nothing sticks, this episode will show you how to refocus your attention to skills that actually are more natural to begin with! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Whether you've tried matchmaking yourself or just learned about it from TV, we're giving you a behind the scenes look into the art of the setup and what it truly means to have success when using a matchmaker. We're chatting with Jaydi Samuels Kuba, a Hollywood matchmaker, about all the challenges and benefits of matchmaking – and how to make it work for you. We discuss what she's learned from years of observing dates (you'd be surprised at the nervous dating habits that come up!), how to understand client preferences vs dealbreakers to bring them the best match, and the ways she's helped so many clients (including herself!) have their last first date.To learn more about Jaydi follow her @matchmadeinhollywood and go to https://www.ljmatchmaking.com/. Get her new book 'Your Last First Date: Secrets from a Hollywood Matchmaker' wherever books are sold.----Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A take-down of the common villains in situationships and why the problem may be self-deception. A look at honest noncommittal boundaries versus hopeful wishful thinking. An unpacking of mixed signals like friend introductions that get misread as commitment. A push to accept a partner’s present capacity and make a clear choice to stay or leave.

Why do some relationships thrive while others seem to fall apart? The answer isn't luck; it's psychology. Join us as we dive into the next phase of long-term committed relationships and the 6 pillars we believe are truly the foundation of a partnership. We're discussing how to navigate the recurring cycles of a relationship fueled by both of your individual patterns and histories, why it's not just communication – but repair – that's the glue to a relationship, and ways to build better habits to strengthen your relationship (or prepare you for when you inevitably enter one in the near future!) Enjoy! If you liked this, subscribe to other podcast too 'The Psychology of Relationships' on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.----Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, Julie is breaking down the biggest change she made when dating the last time around before meeting her now-husband: seeking clarity. If you’ve ever overanalyzed a text, questioned where you stand, or stayed because “maybe it’ll become clear,” this conversation will shift how you approach dating. Julie breaks down why directly asking for what you need isn’t aggressive — it’s self-respect — and how getting real answers (even the uncomfortable ones) is the fastest path to healthier love.--Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ned (Bottle Ned), creator of the Digging the Old West channel and longtime pal of Sean, brings candid, outsider perspective from his own relationship journey. They cover dating in competitive cities, expanding your pool beyond comfort zones, low-cost dates that reveal fit, presentation versus authenticity, and how beliefs and fear shape who you choose.

A host argues emotional bonds alone are not enough and explores why physical chemistry matters. Stories include a friend whose witty texts fizzled in person and a virtual romance that felt awkward face to face. She links nonverbal cues and nervous system sync to real-world connection. The takeaway: meet in person sooner to test whether online sparks survive the transition to shared space.

Whether you're approaching 40 or have cleared this milestone, you may be feeling anxious about what's to come. We're talking to James & Claire Davis, better known as the Midlife Mentors, who are shedding some light on the evolving definition of midlife and how we can move from fearing this next chapter to recognizing its opportunity. We're discussing the hormonal and health changes that occur in both women and men, the shifts that happen in this next stage of life when dating new people and within our existing relationships, and ways we can reimagine these next couple decades in our own terms, not societies.To learn more about Claire & James go to https://themidlifementors.com/ and listen to their podcast 'Midlife Mentors' wherever you listen to podcasts.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What if the real risk isn’t settling… it’s misunderstanding what makes love last? In this episode, Julie challenges the way we think about choosing a partner. She explores a very simple but powerful statement that was made about the three things you need to find in a partner that will ensure you never settle that has truly changed how she thinks about relationships. If you’ve ever worried about picking wrong, missing out, or “settling,” this conversation will push you to rethink what actually makes a relationship worth choosing.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Allison Goldberg, comedian and creator of the live dating show Love Isn't Blind, shares how she stopped centering men and rebuilt a joyful life. She discusses decentering versus active dating, practical habits like sacred friend nights and hobby-building, avoiding heterofatalism, retraining your social inputs, and how that mindset led to meeting her current partner.