Sex and Psychology Podcast

Explore the reasons behind the same fights in long-term relationships known as negative cycles. Discover how triggers, unresolved issues, and attachment styles contribute to these cycles. Learn strategies to recognize, break, and repair negative cycles to improve relationship dynamics.

A lot of people want to bring change into their love life, but they feel stuck. They’re ready and eager for change, but they don’t know how to do it or how to get their partner on board. In today’s episode, we’re going to discuss practical tips for changing your relationship. We’re also going to talk about how to drop the societal imperatives that tell us what we should be doing and, instead, learn how to chart your own course. I am joined once again by award-winning author Emily Nagoski. She wrote the New York Times bestselling books Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook. Her latest book is titled Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: If you’re ready for a change but your partner isn’t, how do you navigate that? How can partners work together to create and maintain a sexual connection that lasts? What are some new ways of exploring erotic pleasures with a partner? What is the “magic trick” for accessing ecstasy, and how can we apply it to our sex lives? Make sure to check out Emily’s website to find out more. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

In this episode, award-winning author Emily Nagoski discusses the science-backed ways of creating and maintaining a sexual connection that lasts in long-term relationships. They explore topics such as the importance of understanding what people want from sex, why sexual novelty alone is not enough, and the difference between pleasure and desire. They also discuss how creating an emotional floorplan can help people get into a lustful headspace.

Discover practical ways to develop sexual empowerment. Learn how resolutions for physical and mental health can enhance sexual satisfaction. Explore introducing novelty and being present during sex. Find out why creating a sex plan can benefit you and your relationship. The podcast features an interview with Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed marriage and family therapist.

Drs. Amy Muise and Emily Impett discuss the lack of scientific backing for 'The Five Love Languages' concept. They explore more scientifically sound ways of understanding love and whether it's okay to still like the love languages idea despite the lack of data supporting it.

The podcast challenges the myth of male sexuality being simple and explores its complexity. Topics include the impact of beauty standards, anxiety about penis size, and the emotional vs. physical aspects of sex for men. Practical tips for becoming a better sexual partner are also discussed.

The podcast explores misconceptions about men's bodies and sexual function, including topics like erections, arousal, orgasm, ejaculation, multiple orgasms, and prostate stimulation. The guest, a certified sex coach, promotes shame-free sexual experiences and authentic masculinity. Arousal non-concordance and the complexity of erections are discussed. The difference between sexual difficulties and disappointments is explored, along with the benefits of men using sex toys.

Learn how to have better sex in the new year by being more vocal and trying new things. Embrace pleasure, overcome self-consciousness, and improve your sex life through sleep. Discover the importance of being present and practice mindfulness during sexual experiences.

Digital sex work is booming. Over the last two decades, sex work has increasingly moved online and it has become a multi-billion dollar industry. The transition to online sex work is changing a lot of things about how sex work works, so let’s talk about it. In today’s episode, we’re going to explore how digital sex work is changing the kinds of services that are bought and sold, how workers create authentic interactions with clients online, how technology is changing the stigma around sex work, and more. I am joined once again by Kurt Fowler, an Assistant Professor of Criminal Justice at Penn State Abington and the author of The Rise of Digital Sex Work. Drawing on in-depth interviews with dozens of sex workers from around the world, this book explores how technology has changed the nature of modern sex work. Some of the topics we explore include: What kind of things do sex workers need to consider when deciding where and how to sell their services online? How does digital sex work allow for more creativity and flexibility in the kinds of services offered? How do online sex workers craft authentic personas and interactions with clients? How has the internet helped sex workers form a sense of community and social support? How is the stigma around sex work changing in the Information Age? You can learn more about Kurt’s book here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

What is it like to be a sex worker? It depends who you ask, with different studies pointing to drastically different conclusions. The truth is that you can’t paint sex workers in overly broad strokes. “Sex work” can mean a lot of different things, and working conditions and local laws vary, which means that different workers are bound to have different experiences. In today’s episode, we’re going to take an inside look into the world of sex work. I am joined by Kurt Fowler, an Assistant Professor of Criminal Justice at Penn State Abington and the author of The Rise of Digital Sex Work. Drawing on in-depth interviews with dozens of sex workers from around the world, this book explores how technology has changed the nature of modern sex work. Some of the topics we explore include: What all is included under the term “sex work?” Two major paradigms dominate research on sex work: the oppression paradigm and the empowerment paradigm. What’s the difference between these views? What are some of the common motivations for entering sex work? How do digital sex workers mitigate some of the unique risks that come along with working in online spaces? How is the experience of sex work different for people of different racial backgrounds? You can learn more about Kurt’s book here. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.