Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Tools for Progress & Peace with Alicia Muñoz (Re-Release)
Mar 17, 2026
Alicia Muñoz, certified couples therapist and author of Stop Overthinking Your Relationship, shares tools for slowing rumination and repairing connection. She describes types of overthinking, the SLOW practice to notice and welcome feelings, and how rumination shapes the relational field. Short, practical conversations about presence, accountability, and choosing growth over blame.
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Alicia's Train Wreck With Her Husband's Anxiety
- Alicia shares a personal moment where she reacted judgmentally to her husband's health anxiety and noticed shame afterward.
- She caught the train-wreck-in-slow-motion reaction, apologized, and used that shame as the pathway to repair.
Thinking Outvalues Presence
- Culture values thinking over presence, which pushes people into rumination instead of being with uncertainty.
- Alicia Muñoz says this marginalizes wonder and the bodily experience that underlies intimate connection, making thinking a default coping tool.
Thoughts Shape The Relational Field
- Rumination creates a palpable relational field: your thoughts change your physiology and your partner senses and responds to that shift.
- Alicia compares solo overthinking to riding a unicycle versus a tandem bike where both riders feel each other's moves.
