66 - The Path to True Reconciliation

What is the step by step process to recovery?

What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use?

How do we recover our relationship after betrayal?

Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction.

 

watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21 https://www.youtube.com/live/rirnsSLaYcw?si=I7aPoJ34MBsL42nD

 

Where to begin:

 

For betrayor:

 

1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

 

2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places)

 

www.puredesire.org

 

Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help

 

3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com

 

4) Read books and listen to recovery podcasts:

• RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Me)
• Pure Desire podcast
• Pure Desire book by Ted Roberts
• Clean by Doug Weiss
• Unwanted- Jay Stringer

 

 

For the betrayed spouse:

 

1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery  - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy

 

If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it’s a good fit:

 

https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

 

 

 

2) Connect with local, or online groups:

• Cosa
• Sanon
• Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org
• Infidelity survivors anonymous
• www.btr.org

 

3) Ready books and listen to recovery podcasts:

• RecoverU podcast (Patrick and Me)
• Pure Desire podcast
• Intimate Deception. Sheri Keffer
• Facing Heartbreak - Stephanie Carnes
• RISE- Misty Terrell