RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Trigger Warning: This episode mentions child on child sexual abuse, child sexual absue material, and the duggar family scandals. Please listen with awareness. We live in a sexually broken world. It seems like we are hearing new scandals breaking weekly where an adult has harmed children or a child has been hurt by another child.  Today we are exploring how negative beliefs, often within extremely rigid faith culture, can contribute to negative patterns. We then discuss alternatives that we suggest may be a healthier alternative for how to prep and support our children to having healthier relationships to sexuality within themselves and others. Some previous episodes we have recorded that may be supportive in relation to this topic:   Ep 142: Protecting Your Child's Innocence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000736403150 Ep 138: Where Modesty Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000731965520 Ep 79: How to talk to your kids about sex: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000668310201 “As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.” God Made All of Me book: https://a.co/d/0aYqxTBg   Body Boundaries Make Me Stronger: https://a.co/d/06PHRa5b      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Raquell Barton helps moms move through the divorce process with power, peace, and preparedness, so they can maximize what they get and minimize stress, while they rebuild a future that’s better than before. Sometimes divorce IS the healthy choice. Just like all things in life, we need support. Raquel is here to support you as you navigate the process. Learn more at www.herdivorceacademy.com  Follow her on threads: @Herdivorceacademy      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources    

We all see people who transform their lives over time. What are the mindsets that help them accomplish these big changes? In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss 5 healing mindsets that set you up for success and growth.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  --   To your health, Kylene Terhune Betrayal Recovery Coach Host of RecoverU podcast FDN-P, Master NLP life coach, Master QTT practitioner   Are you a betrayed partner? Join my free FB group RecoverU here

We all use coping mechanisms sometimes. To escape, to offer some distraction or to feel more calm. Coping mechanisms aren't always inherently bad - but they CAN be when they cause distress, don't solve the problem or avoid providing us with the real solution to a problem.   In todays episode, Kylene discusses how coping mechanisms show up, how to identify what they offer, and think through replacements that are more beneficial.    Free Habit transformation template PDF: https://www.canva.com/design/DAHC5rgrKvg/9MDqDOmajKEtC9ZWpHPuuw/view?utm_content=DAHC5rgrKvg&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h7da8f0b86b   Supplements for Addict: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-kylene-terhune-1531288982-addiction-recovery-support   Supplements for Betrayed Partner: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-kylene-terhune-1531288982-addiction-recovery-support   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene go to www.RecoverUcoaching.com for more information!    Sign up for the What’s NEXT online course for betrayed partners HERE: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

Betrayed partners are left spinning after discovering their life isn't what they thought it was. The What's NEXT online, self-led, course is designed to walk you through the foundational steps to help you create safety and stability after discovering your partner is a sex/porn addict or has had an affair.   This course provides you with real life tangible tools that help you: Connect to safe providers Support your body through the stress and emotions Prepare for things like disclosure  Set healthy boundaries  and so much more...   What's NEXT?! is available to purchase here: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course   Don't hesitate to reach out to Kylene with any questions!    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene go to www.RecoverUcoaching.com for more information!    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Whether you are navigating a divorce, or know someone who might be, Olivia offers support before during and after.  On today’s episode she shares how navigating her divorce kickstarted an idea for a divorce registry and how since then it has turned into a full service divorce business offering FREE resources to those who need support.   Even if YOU are not navigating divorce, we hope you’ll give this episode a listen in case there is anyone in your life that could use this resource!   Olivia Howell is a nationally recognized divorce educator, visionary founder, clinical hypnotherapist, and the CEO and co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry, the premier expert-led divorce support network. Through Fresh Starts, she provides access to vetted experts, divorce registries, educational resources, and a robust media ecosystem designed to guide people through the emotional, financial, and logistical realities of starting over — all with trauma-informed care at the center.     Website: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ Instagram: @oliviahowell and @freshstartsregistry TikTok: @oliviahowell   ***   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene go to www.RecoverUcoaching.com for more information!    Sign up for the What’s NEXT online course for betrayed partners HERE: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick answer a listener's question about what they can expect when it comes to their partner treating them more kindly as they navigate recovery. If the selfish behavior is related to their trauma, can we expect that behavior to change?    Check out the brand new website: www.recoverucoaching.com    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this episode Kylene and Patrick are celebrating 5 years in recovery! They are sharing their thoughts about surprises in recovery, grief through recovery, and advice they would retroactively give themselves.    We hope this episode brings hope and encouragement to you on your healing journey!    If you would like to see Patrick's Moments of Grace: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CvhNCr4T2/   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this final part of the "now what?" series, Kylene and Patrick discuss what steps a coupleship can take when moving towards recovery or reconciliation after betrayal.   This includes, establishing safety, increasing and improving communication, engaging in the tools we have covered in the past 3 episodes, and giving it the time needed. Healing takes time, and the brain and nervous system need time to pass to believe that safety is real.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today's episode is a continuation of last week's episode supporting a betrayed partner immediately after discovery. Last week we focused on tangible action steps like connecting to a specialized coach or therapist and setting early boundaries.    This week, we are discussing mental, emotional and relational things to think through early on after discovery including having compassion on your emotional parts in grieving this traumatic experience and giving yourself time to gather the information you need.   Sobriety vs Recovery episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune