On Attachment #121: What is Emotional Availability?
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Nov 30, 2023 A nuanced take on what emotional availability really means, from authenticity to honest communication. A look at why people rush to label others and why we might be drawn to unavailability. How anxious patterns can also be a form of emotional unavailability. Thoughts on how receiving steady care can expose our own growth edges.
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Emotional Availability Is Authenticity
- Emotional availability equals authenticity and emotional maturity, not just frequent presence.
- Stephanie Rigg defines it as being honest, able to articulate emotions, handle boundaries and avoid performing for approval.
Start With Self Reflection Not Finger Pointing
- Look inward before blaming others for being unavailable and ask why you're attracted to that dynamic.
- Stephanie recommends starting with self-reflection to see what you're projecting into dating patterns.
People Pleasing Is A Form Of Unavailability
- Emotional unavailability can take the form of people pleasing and shape-shifting, not only aloofness.
- Stephanie explains anxious patterns hide parts of self to be chosen, presenting a curated, inauthentic version instead of true feelings.