The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett The Body Language Expert: Stop Using This, It’s Making People Dislike You, So Are These Subtle Mistakes! Your Resting Face Matters & How To Fix It!
Dec 9, 2024
02:44:53
What if you were told that there is a secret language that makes up 98% of your communication? Impacting your work, socialising, and romantic life
Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People’, which gives people science-backed skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People’ and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’.
In this conversation, Vanessa and Steven discuss topics such as, why your resting face matters, the 3 science-backed tricks for confidence, the best gestures for building trust, and how to spot a liar fast.
00:00 Intro
01:45 The Crucial Role of Cues for Success
03:16 I'm a Recovered Awkward Person
05:07 What's an Ambivert?
07:00 One Word That Can Change the Way People Think
09:11 The Most Fundamental Skill to Invest In
12:13 The Resting B*tch Face Effect
15:33 Do Not Fake Smile!
18:00 The 97 Cues to Be Warm and Competent
21:15 The Formula to a Perfect Conversation
24:09 Science Reveals Why Some People Are Extremely Popular
28:06 Message People Telling Them This...
32:53 The Luck Experiment
34:36 Being Around Successful People Is Contagious
41:26 The Importance of Hand Gestures
43:10 Hand Tricks to Be Liked
53:46 The Scientific Formula to Be More Charismatic
56:19 The Danger Zone of Being Too Warm or Competent
58:16 The Power Cues
1:07:26 How to Spot a Liar
1:14:54 If You've Been Told You're Intimidating, Do This
1:18:09 Don't Let Anyone Use This With You
1:21:16 The 6 Questions to Connect With Someone
1:33:52 Leaning Too Much Towards Someone...
1:38:34 How to Greet Someone
1:49:13 How to Master Messaging
1:54:12 Personal Branding
1:58:32 Improve Your Dating Life With These Tips
2:03:58 Body Language and Brain Connection
2:06:05 Are You Awkward? Watch This
2:09:45 How to Get Someone to Approach You
2:14:39 How to Make Friends as an Adult
2:18:28 AirPods Are Killing Friendships
2:21:48 Ads
2:22:39 How to Spot a Liar (Repeat Topic)
2:28:36 Toxic Relationships
2:31:06 How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger
2:35:32 How to Get Started With All This Knowledge
Follow Vanessa:
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Science of People - https://g2ul0.app.link/5LJ8mO5O6Ob
You can access the images mentioned, here: https://linktr.ee/diaryofaceostudies
You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/HjfkOgZO6Ob
Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes
My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook
You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb
Follow me:
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Sponsors:
Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett
ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off
Colgate - https://www.colgate.com/en-gb/colgate-total
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Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People’, which gives people science-backed skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People’ and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’.
In this conversation, Vanessa and Steven discuss topics such as, why your resting face matters, the 3 science-backed tricks for confidence, the best gestures for building trust, and how to spot a liar fast.
00:00 Intro
01:45 The Crucial Role of Cues for Success
03:16 I'm a Recovered Awkward Person
05:07 What's an Ambivert?
07:00 One Word That Can Change the Way People Think
09:11 The Most Fundamental Skill to Invest In
12:13 The Resting B*tch Face Effect
15:33 Do Not Fake Smile!
18:00 The 97 Cues to Be Warm and Competent
21:15 The Formula to a Perfect Conversation
24:09 Science Reveals Why Some People Are Extremely Popular
28:06 Message People Telling Them This...
32:53 The Luck Experiment
34:36 Being Around Successful People Is Contagious
41:26 The Importance of Hand Gestures
43:10 Hand Tricks to Be Liked
53:46 The Scientific Formula to Be More Charismatic
56:19 The Danger Zone of Being Too Warm or Competent
58:16 The Power Cues
1:07:26 How to Spot a Liar
1:14:54 If You've Been Told You're Intimidating, Do This
1:18:09 Don't Let Anyone Use This With You
1:21:16 The 6 Questions to Connect With Someone
1:33:52 Leaning Too Much Towards Someone...
1:38:34 How to Greet Someone
1:49:13 How to Master Messaging
1:54:12 Personal Branding
1:58:32 Improve Your Dating Life With These Tips
2:03:58 Body Language and Brain Connection
2:06:05 Are You Awkward? Watch This
2:09:45 How to Get Someone to Approach You
2:14:39 How to Make Friends as an Adult
2:18:28 AirPods Are Killing Friendships
2:21:48 Ads
2:22:39 How to Spot a Liar (Repeat Topic)
2:28:36 Toxic Relationships
2:31:06 How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger
2:35:32 How to Get Started With All This Knowledge
Follow Vanessa:
Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/cm3A7r1O6Ob
Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/IVgMiQ3O6Ob
Science of People - https://g2ul0.app.link/5LJ8mO5O6Ob
You can access the images mentioned, here: https://linktr.ee/diaryofaceostudies
You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/HjfkOgZO6Ob
Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes
My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook
You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb
Follow me:
https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb
Sponsors:
Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett
ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off
Colgate - https://www.colgate.com/en-gb/colgate-total
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theexperienceplus.substack.com