Complex with Kimberley Wilson How can you build resilience?
Jan 28, 2026
Dr Sula Windgassen, a health psychologist and CBT therapist who works with chronic illness and trauma, shares practical clinical perspectives. They define resilience as positive adaptation, challenge myths about ‘bouncing back’, and explore flexibility versus rigidity. The conversation covers stages of coping and evidence-based ways to deliberately strengthen resilience like CBT, mindfulness and social support.
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Resilience Is Adaptation Not Unchanged Return
- Resilience means positive adaptation after adversity rather than returning unchanged.
- Sula Windgassen contrasts 'bouncing back' with pragmatic readjustment and acceptance of lasting changes after hardship.
Holly's Traumatic Collapse And Slow Recovery
- Holly's story shows resilience while still needing long-term support after multiple traumas.
- She experienced serious injury, workplace bullying, relationship breakdowns and feels unsure calling herself resilient despite ongoing recovery.
Asking For Support Is Part Of Resilience
- Needing support does not disqualify someone from being resilient.
- Sula Windgassen explains resilience often relies on borrowing others' strength, belief and encouragement as part of the process.