Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled Good News About Disagreeable Behavior (Questions From My Inbox)
Apr 12, 2022
Parents hear practical reframes for disagreeable behavior and why it often signals safety. The show explores when children act out to process overwhelm versus seek attention. Listeners learn about managing refusals while keeping routines, handling sibling imitation, and neutralizing the drama around taboo words. The core thread is welcoming big feelings while holding clear limits.
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Behavior As A Sign Of Safety
- Disagreeable behavior often signals that a child feels safe enough to bring difficult feelings to their caregiver.
- Janet Lansbury explains a 19-month-old who refuses the mother but not the nanny as a sign he trusts his mother to receive big feelings.
Janet's Story Of The Easily Forgotten Gift
- Janet recounts her oldest daughter acting out after the arrival of a new baby as an example of a child sharing overlooked feelings.
- The behavior revealed the mother's overwhelm and lack of availability during the transition.
Behavior As Feedback On Leadership
- Disagreeable behavior can be constructive feedback about parental leadership rather than a personal attack.
- The child may be asking the parent to be a calm, confident leader who can absorb discomfort without changing plans.
