Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 569 - Why is Everyone So Tired of Dating?
Mar 3, 2026
They dig into dating burnout and why endless swiping feels exhausting. The conversation contrasts app-driven encounters with organic meetings and examines how choice overload, addictive design, and stacked first dates drain emotional bandwidth. They also explore cultural trends around relationships, non-monogamy experiences on apps, and practical moves to reduce fatigue and meet people more intentionally.
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Old Relationships Might Have Been Skipped On Apps
- Dedeker reflected on two college relationships that were formative but likely would have been skipped on apps due to reduced cues.
- She noted profiles compress people into tiny packages so she might not have swiped right despite valuing those relationships later.
Infinite Choice Creates Analysis Paralysis
- Dating apps increase choice volume and create analysis paralysis that makes it hard to commit.
- Emily described a Gen Z source calling apps a Cheesecake Factory menu to illustrate constant comparison and decision fatigue.
Apps Fuel Emotional Depletion More Than Connection
- Apps produce emotional depletion not connection: users spend ~51 minutes/day and report lies, ghosting, and disappointment.
- Hosts cited a Forbes survey showing nearly half want long-term relationships yet face misinformation and fatigue drivers.