Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 558 - This Is Your Brain on (Jealousy) Drugs
Dec 2, 2025
Dive into the complex world of jealousy, exploring its science and physiological responses. Discover how jealousy triggers the fight or flight response and its cognitive effects, including how our brain perceives threats. The hosts debate whether jealousy is relationship-preserving or potentially harmful, examining cultural interpretations of its meaning. Engage with intriguing studies on attachment styles and envy, and learn strategies to manage jealousy while emphasizing self-compassion and awareness. Join the fascinating discussion on how jealousy impacts modern relationships!
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Research Rabbit Hole
- Dedeker wanted to research the history of jealousy but followed the 'rabbit of science' into physiology and studies.
- That shift led to finding messy, contradictory research instead of a neat cultural history.
Jealousy Felt In The Hands
- Emily recalled intense jealousy that manifested as tingling and anger in her hands during early polyamory.
- She notes those bodily sensations have since faded with time and experience.
Questioning The Classic Infidelity Claim
- The 1992 JSIM study claiming sex vs. emotional infidelity gender split is unreliable and contradicted by many later studies.
- Simple evolutionary stories often ignore later evidence and cultural complexity.
