Sex for Saints Episode 349 - Objectifying Your Spouse
Dec 27, 2024
A conversation about desire and how longing can energize long-term relationships. They explore what counts as objectifying versus celebrating a partner. The discussion covers balancing physical compliments with emotional praise and using touch and consent to show attraction. Cultural conditioning and communication tips for speaking desire are also highlighted.
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Desire Can Affirm Without Dehumanizing
- Desire and objectification are distinct: desire can affirm without reducing someone to a thing.
- Amanda Lauder frames desire as longing that includes physical attraction but is rooted in seeing the whole person.
Objectification Harms Self Worth
- Being treated only for appearance damages self-worth and fuels insecurity and resentment.
- Amanda explains how constant focus on looks or transactional touch makes a partner feel unseen and pressured to perform.
Don't Stop Expressing Physical Admiration
- Don’t overcorrect by avoiding all comments about appearance; absence of desire can create doubt.
- Amanda warns men who stop complimenting their wives may unintentionally make them wonder if they're still attractive.