The Leader's Journey Podcast

Beyond Fight/Flight: The Fawn Response (People pleasing and Peacekeeping)

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Jul 13, 2023
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ADVICE

Make Fawning Visible And Intentionally Use It

  • Make fawning visible and intentional so it can serve connection rather than only survival.
  • Chuck advises shifting toward connection so responses like fawn can be employed thoughtfully and healthily.
INSIGHT

Fawning Can Be Mistaken For Maturity

  • Fawning often looks like maturity because it soothes others, yet it serves the fawner's anxiety not their values.
  • Tricia notes fawning gets rewarded and masks that actions aren't aligned with deeply held values.
INSIGHT

Fawning Fuels Triangulation In Organizations

  • In leadership, fawning fuels triangulation and avoids direct conversations, keeping unhealthy patterns normalized.
  • Chuck points to subtle moves like asking a colleague to 'nudge' someone instead of addressing issues directly.
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