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Paul Brunson: Women Need To Lower Their Standards! If They Have These 3 Traits, Never Let Them Go! If You Get Sick, There’s A 624% Chance He’ll Leave!

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Jan 30, 2025

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Paul C. Brunson

Paul Brunson, a world-renowned relationship expert and entrepreneur, shares his insights on navigating modern love. He discusses the importance of lowering expectations in relationships while identifying key traits that indicate a strong partnership. Brunson highlights societal influences on attraction, including preferences for height, and dispels myths about marriage and commitment. He emphasizes the emotional complexities of dating today, the potential dangers of comparison, and the hidden benefits of questioning relationship dynamics.

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ADVICE

Normalize Outside Attraction

Normalize attraction to people outside your relationship.
Start small, like discussing celebrity crushes, to normalize the human experience of attraction.

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ADVICE

Early Marriage Discussion

Discuss marriage early in a relationship to align on values and expectations.
If one partner values marriage and the other is indifferent, consider the partner's desire.

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Beyond Values

Partnering based on aligned values is less important than well-being, open-mindedness, and resilience.
Values change, but a partner focused on well-being is more likely to contribute to relationship success.

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The Complexity of Modern Love

01:30 • 25min

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Navigating Relationship Expectations

26:00 • 29min

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Rethinking Modern Marriage

55:12 • 18min

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Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics

01:13:38 • 21min

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Navigating Fertility and Relationships in Your 40s

01:34:23 • 12min

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Debunking Myths: The Truth About Sex and Relationship Happiness

01:46:12 • 3min

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Finding Joy Beyond Physical Intimacy

01:48:44 • 8min

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Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships

01:56:27 • 5min

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Navigating the Complexities of Relationships and Selective Disclosure

02:01:25 • 3min

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Navigating Relationship Conflicts

02:04:36 • 20min

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Exploring Digital Infidelity and Its Impact on Relationships

02:24:11 • 2min

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Navigating Attraction and Jealousy in Relationships

02:25:45 • 4min

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Resilience and Redefining Love

02:29:47 • 6min

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Keep Love: 21 Truths for a Long-Lasting Relationship

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In 'Keep Love: 21 Truths for a Long-Lasting Relationship,' Paul Brunson demystifies the secrets to fostering long-lasting connections. The book outlines key myths, issues, and challenges that couples may face and provides simple tools, know-how, and emotional intelligence to manage them. It emphasizes the importance of honest and open communication, mutual respect, problem-solving ability, intimacy, and a shared sense of purpose in building strong foundations for long-lasting love.

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Find Love

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In 'Find Love', Paul C. Brunson offers vital advice for navigating and securing real connections in the modern dating landscape. The book covers topics such as red and green flags, dating apps, speed-dating, attachment styles, trauma, dealbreakers, and compromises. It is designed to help both singles and those in relationships make informed decisions about love, supported by research and filled with practical insights.

From dating disaster to 'I do', Paul Brunson cracks the rules of love and reveals the do’s and don’ts for an unbreakable relationship

Paul Brunson is a world-renowned relationship expert, entrepreneur, and host of the number 1 dating and relationships advice show, ‘We Need To Talk’. He is the author of books such as, ‘Find Love: How to navigate modern love and discover the right partner for you’ and ‘Keep Love: 21 Truths for a Long-Lasting Relationship’.

In this conversation, Paul and Steven discuss topics such as, the top 3 signs of a successful relationship, the dangers of serial dating, why women are attracted to taller men, and the hidden benefits of doubting your relationship.

00:00 Intro

02:25 Who Is Paul C Brunson?

04:44 How Has Love Evolved Since You Started This?

07:47 Why Are People Struggling to Find Love?

11:46 The Danger of Comparison

16:26 Racism Within Dating

20:29 Are Arranged Marriages More Successful?

24:26 Your Friends Usually Know If You're With the Right Person

27:05 We Have to Lower Our Expectations of Our Partners

29:58 We Have Countless Options in Today’s Society

33:54 The Difference Between Men & Women When the Other Gets Sick

39:36 Satisfaction in Marriage Is the Most Important Thing

43:06 Should We Be Talking About Our Relationships?

46:06 We Will Be Attracted to Other People, and That’s OK

51:46 Women Are Better at Maintaining Their Connections Than Men

55:15 Should We Be Getting Married?

58:45 Marriages Should Be Harder to Get Into

01:09:19 What Predicts a Successful Marriage?

01:10:21 What Qualities Should I Look for in a Partner?

01:13:50 The Demand Doesn’t Reflect What’s in the Dating Market

01:28:21 Are People With Symmetrical Features More Attractive?

01:30:03 How Self-Esteem Plays a Huge Role in Partner Choices

01:34:28 Advice for People With Low Self-Esteem Who Base Relationships on Superficial Traits

01:36:57 Paul Brunson’s Experience With IVF

01:41:35 Infertility Issues & Relationship Problems

01:44:41 What Can a Man Do to Find and Keep a Partner?

01:47:12 Relationship Myths

01:52:22 Desire Management

01:56:31 Anxious Attachment Style Going for Avoidant Partners

02:06:43 The Importance of Conflict Resolution

02:10:29 You Should Say Sorry More Often

02:19:03 Should You Go to Bed Angry at Your Partner?

02:22:29 Is Cheating the End of the Relationship?

02:29:09 Discipline in Relationships

02:31:12 When Did You Discover Your Own Power?

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