Do You F*cking Mind? The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses
Jan 19, 2026
Conversation on how constantly negotiating with yourself quietly erodes self-trust. Short examples show why reasonable-sounding excuses become repeating patterns. Tips highlight choosing small, reliable promises over big plans. The idea that discipline creates freedom and that stopping internal debates accelerates progress appears throughout.
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Why Excuses Always Sound Reasonable
- Excuses usually sound rational and compassionate in your own voice, which makes them hard to spot as self-sabotage.
- Alexis illustrates with the bus example: a one-off valid reason is different from a repeating pattern you could control by better time management.
How Self-Negotiation Weakens Your Word
- Negotiating with yourself trains your brain to treat promises to yourself as flexible and weakens your commitments.
- Alexis defines consistency as hit rates and warns that repeatedly delaying important discomfort-based tasks erodes self-trust.
Lower The Bar To Build Follow Through
- Be a person of your word by lowering the bar if needed and following through consistently rather than aiming for unrealistic perfection.
- Alexis recommends starting small so follow-through builds trust and then gradually raising standards.