Nope! We're Not Monogamous Why You Can’t Just Talk Your Way Out of Jealousy in Polyamory (And What Actually Helps) Ep. 131
You’ve read the books. You’ve had the conversations. You’ve tried to journal your way into compersion.
So why does your stomach still drop the moment your partner says they’re heading to someone else’s house?
In this episode, I’m unpacking the real reason jealousy sticks around in polyamory — even when you've “done the work.” Spoiler alert: it’s not about logic, it’s about your nervous system.
We’ll explore:
- Why jealousy is a felt experience, not a failure
- The toxic pressure to be the “chill poly person”
- What actually helps (hint: it’s not another script)
- Real-life signs you’re stuck in a jealousy loop
- A breathwork practice you can use mid-spiral
- Listener Q&A on compersion, insecurity, and nervous system care
If your brain says “I’m fine” but your body says “I’m not safe,” this one’s for you.
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