Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy Morin 303 — Stop Trying to Fix People’s Problems—Here’s How to Truly Connect Instead with Psychotherapist Nidhi Tewari
Mar 30, 2026
Nidhi Tewari, a licensed clinical social worker and author focused on attunement and workplace relationships. She explains why trying to fix others can backfire. Short, practical ideas on asking what someone needs, reading receptivity, repairing missteps with AVP, and the four core attunement skills are explored in lively, relatable conversation.
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Why Fixing Problems Often Backfires
- Trying to fix someone's problem often feels presumptuous and invalidating rather than helpful.
- Nidhi explains people usually seek validation and to feel understood, not immediate solutions, so advice can make them feel dumb or minimized.
Attunement Is Neurobiological Synchrony
- Attunement differs from emotional intelligence by being neurobiological and relational, not just individual.
- Nidhi cites syncing of hormones, heart rate, breathing and neuron firing as the basis of deep connection.
Offer A Menu Of Support Options
- Ask "How can I best support you right now?" and offer a short menu of options.
- Provide choices like listen, brainstorm, or take a task to reduce decision burden during distress.
