Raising Boys & Girls Episode 361: The 5 Principles of Parenting with Dr. Aliza Pressman
Mar 26, 2026
Dr. Aliza Pressman, a developmental psychologist and author who writes about parenting and child development, outlines five research-based principles for raising resilient kids. She discusses relationship as a resilience buffer. She explains reflection, self-regulation, clear rules, and the power of repair. Short, practical segments cover boundaries, when to step in, and buildable resilience skills.
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One Adult Can Buffer Toxic Stress
- Relationship with at least one consistent adult buffers toxic stress and promotes resilience in children.
- Aliza Pressman explains one safe adult can reclassify severe stressors as tolerable, reducing long-term harm.
Repair Strengthens Relationship Resilience
- Repairing after conflict restores trust and teaches kids relationships survive mistakes.
- Pressman highlights the science of repair: reconnecting after discord shows love is constant despite errors.
Model Regulation Before Expecting It
- Regulate yourself first, then co-regulate with your child to teach self-regulation.
- Pressman advises adults to model managing emotions and lend their regulated nervous system to children who lack capacity.
