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#740: Greg McKeown and Diana Chapman

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May 24, 2024

Join Greg McKeown, bestselling author of "Essentialism," and Diana Chapman, co-founder of the Conscious Leadership Group, as they dive into transformative insights. They discuss the importance of personal responsibility and how to sidestep the planning fallacy. Greg reveals ways to identify non-essential tasks, while Diana introduces the Drama Triangle and the concept of a "whole-body yes." Together, they explore techniques for fostering emotional intelligence and maintaining healthy relationships, guiding listeners towards a more purposeful life.

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Whole-Body Yes Exercise

To identify your "whole-body yes," visualize positive and negative past experiences.
Notice your body's sensations in each scenario to create a map.

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Practicing Whole-Body Yes

Practice identifying your "whole-body yes" with low-stakes decisions like menus or routes.
Gradually increase the importance of the decisions as you improve.

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Playfulness and Sensations

Diana Chapman suggests that "yeses" ignite creative and sexual energy.
She encourages cultivating pleasure and aliveness in the body to foster playfulness.

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Feeding Your Demons

Tsültrim Allione

In 'Feeding Your Demons,' Tsultrim Allione adapts the revolutionary wisdom of Tibet’s greatest female spiritual master, providing a powerful method for coping with inner enemies. The book outlines a five-step practice for recognizing, giving form to, and feeding your 'demons,' which are negative emotions, relationships, fears, illnesses, and self-defeating patterns. This approach aims to transform these challenges into allies, promoting inner peace and applying to both personal and global issues. The book is enriched with detailed examples of how others have transformed their demons, offering insights and tools for achieving inner peace and resolving inner conflict.

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The big leap

Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

Gay Hendricks

In 'The Big Leap,' Gay Hendricks addresses the concept of the Upper Limit Problem, where individuals subconsciously sabotage their own success and happiness due to deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs. The book introduces four zones of activity: the Zone of Incompetence, Zone of Competence, Zone of Excellence, and Zone of Genius. Hendricks emphasizes the importance of identifying and operating in the Zone of Genius, where one combines what they love doing with what they are exceptionally good at. He also outlines four common hidden barriers to success: feeling fundamentally flawed, fear of disloyalty and abandonment, believing more success brings a bigger burden, and the fear of outshining others. The book provides practical advice on overcoming these barriers, embracing continuous growth, and achieving a balance between professional success and personal fulfillment.

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Essentialism

The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

Greg McKeown

In 'Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less,' Greg McKeown argues that by applying a more selective criteria for what is essential, individuals can regain control of their time and energy. The book is divided into sections such as Explore, Eliminate, and Execute, providing practical advice on distinguishing the vital few from the trivial many and eliminating non-essential activities. McKeown emphasizes the importance of clarity of focus, the ability to say 'no,' and living 'by design, not by default. ' This approach helps readers achieve more by doing less and making the highest possible contribution in their personal and professional lives.

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• Mentioned in 43 episodes

The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership

A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success

Diana Chapman

Kaley Warner Klemp

Jim Dethmer

This book distinguishes between unconscious and conscious leadership, offering a roadmap to help leaders transition from fear-based to trust-based leadership. The 15 commitments outlined in the book aim to enhance self-awareness, accountability, and collaborative relationships. By practicing these commitments, leaders can achieve more energy, clarity, focus, and healthier relationships, both personally and within their teams. The commitments include ending blame and criticism, speaking candidly, finding unique genius, and creating win-for-all solutions, among others. The authors provide practical exercises and resources to help leaders implement these commitments effectively.

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Conscious loving

the journey to co-commitment

Kathlyn Hendricks

Gay Hendricks

This book helps couples diagnose and overcome the symptoms of co-dependence in their relationships. It introduces three stages of relationships: co-dependence, co-commitment, and co-creativity. The authors, drawing from their own experiences and work with over a thousand couples, provide a step-by-step program to turn unconscious loving into conscious loving. The book emphasizes the importance of full closeness, personal development, revealing oneself fully, empowering others, taking responsibility for one's reality, and having a good time in relationships. It includes practical exercises and commitments to help individuals move from co-dependence to co-commitment and co-creativity, enhancing energy, creativity, and overall well-being in the process.

This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #355 "Greg McKeown — How to Master Essentialism" and episode #536 "Diana Chapman — How to Get Unstuck, Do “The Work,” Take Radical Responsibility, and Reduce Drama in Your Life."

Please enjoy!

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Timestamps:

[00:00] Start

[05:26] Notes about this supercombo format.

[06:28] Enter Greg McKeown.

[06:49] What is non-essential?

[07:46] Overcoming the planning fallacy.

[13:30] The problem with taking ownership of someone else’s problems.

[15:44] How to avoid committing to the unsustainable.

[21:26] Three rules.

[25:28] The personal quarterly offsite.

[33:05] Enter Diana Chapman.

[33:22] A transformative gift.

[36:56] The Drama Triangle.

[43:36] The whole-body yes (or no) and how it can serve us.

[46:06] Diana guides an experience to help pay better attention to our whole-body yes (or no).

[54:36] Observations made during the exercise and how Diana recommends using this inventory.

[1:01:39] Fostering playfulness for those who mute their desire to celebrate.

[1:08:28] Diana’s “black belt in practicing candor.”

[1:09:37] Diana’s thoughts on loving pressure and how to bring it into a relationship.

[1:13:24] Applying loving pressure to people you don’t know well.

[1:15:08] Diana’s guidance on introspection leading to perspective shifts; using Byron Katie’s “turnarounds.”

[1:17:48] Diana guides me through a turnaround.

[1:23:58] A turnaround’s purpose is to identify and embrace alternatives, not invalidate the inspected belief.

[1:29:06] The importance of introducing the somatic into the process; suggestions for difficulty with this step.

[1:31:47] The role of the witness in this process.

[1:33:54] Walking the line.

[1:35:40] Welcoming the opportunity to learn from the experience, even if it’s not preferred.

[1:37:35] Alternative tools for dysregulation in the moment.

[1:39:31] Risks Diana and her husband Matt took to keep their relationship vital; who initiated the first difficult conversation.

[1:45:11] How Diana figured out who she needed to be during this time.

[1:47:11] Navigating decision points together as a couple.

[1:49:42] Examples of commitments from The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership.

[1:53:22] The Mind Jogger app and how Diana uses it with the commitments.

[1:55:55] Assessing self-awareness in hiring interviews applied to non-job situations.

[1:57:53] Books most gifted.

[1:59:35] Parting thoughts.

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