How Not To Suck At Divorce 193. When I Knew It Was Time to Leave My Marriage: Personal Divorce Story- Mini Episode
How do you know when it’s truly time to leave your marriage?
In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport shares the deeply personal story of how she knew her marriage was over — and the warning signs she ignored long before she finally said the words, “I want a divorce.”
Andrea talks openly about the quiet red flags that started as whispers, the gut feelings she tried to ignore, and the emotional toll of staying in a relationship that wasn’t healthy or sustainable. If you’re questioning your marriage, feeling lonely in your relationship, or wondering if divorce might be the right next step, this episode offers an honest and compassionate perspective.
Sometimes the hardest part of divorce isn’t the legal process — it’s acknowledging what your heart has already been trying to tell you.
This episode is about learning to listen to those whispers before they become screams.
In This Episode
Andrea shares:
- The early red flags she ignored while dating
- Why unhealthy relationships can feel familiar and “normal”
- The emotional experience of living in a marriage that doesn’t feel right
- What it feels like to avoid going home because the relationship feels so lonely
- Why many people stay in marriages long after they know something is wrong
- The moment Andrea finally said “I want a divorce”
- Why gathering information about divorce can help you feel more empowered
- The importance of having a safe place to talk about what you're going through
If You’re Wondering Whether It’s Time to Leave Your Marriage
If you're asking yourself questions like:
- Is my marriage over?
- Why do I feel so lonely in my relationship?
- How do I know when it's time to get divorced?
- What does it feel like when a marriage isn't working anymore?
You are not alone. Many people experience the same doubts, fears, and emotional confusion before deciding to leave a marriage.
This episode offers a reminder that listening to your instincts and seeking support can help you navigate one of the hardest decisions of your life.
Resources Mentioned
If you're thinking about divorce, these steps can help you start gathering information and support:
- Speak with a therapist or trusted professional
- Talk to a divorce attorney to understand your options
- Connect with a supportive community of people going through similar experiences
- Continue learning about the divorce process so you can make informed decisions
About the Podcast
How Not to Suck at Divorce is hosted by Morgan Stogsdill, head of family law at one of the largest family law firms in the country, and comedian Andrea Rappaport.
Each episode helps people navigate divorce with expert guidance, honest conversations, and practical advice so you can avoid the biggest divorce mistakes.
Divorce may be overwhelming, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
Final Reminder
Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint.
Some days you need information.
Other days you just need to feel seen and heard.
And if you're listening to this episode and questioning your marriage, know this:
You deserve happiness.
And remember:
You've got this… and we've got you.
Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course
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Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.
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