Chasing Excellence Feel It, Don't Feed It: Own Your Emotions Without Being Owned by Them (w/ Margaret Cullen)
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Mar 26, 2026 Margaret Cullen, author and meditation teacher behind Quiet Strength, shows how equanimity lets you feel emotions fully without being hijacked by them. She discusses practical cognitive hacks, the 90-second rule, widening your window of tolerance, and creating conditions like nature and humor to let calm arise naturally. Short, actionable, and grounded in mindfulness practice.
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Near Enemies Look Like Calm But Are Not
- Near enemies mimic equanimity, like apathy or indifference, but actually withdraw or detach.
- True equanimity is an expression of love that deepens poignancy while draining melodrama.
Practice Door Three By Sitting With Experience
- Cultivate equanimity with mindfulness or simple cognitive hacks to short-circuit reactivity.
- Sit with experience nonjudgmentally (mindfulness) to widen your window of tolerance and choose door three.
Ask If It's Really About You
- Ask whether events are personal to interrupt stories that fuel reactivity.
- Reframe ambiguous actions as impersonal or caused by complex conditions to reduce outrage and rumination.
