Sex for Saints Episode 350 - The Difference Between Sexuality and Eroticism
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Jan 3, 2025 A discussion about how sexuality differs from eroticism and why imagination and intention matter. Practical examples show how simple acts can shift from routine to alive. Tips on reviving curiosity, playfulness, and daily touches to rebuild connection in long-term relationships.
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Sexuality Versus Eroticism
- Sexuality is the biological, primal foundation characterized by hormones and instinctual arousal.
- Amanda Lauder contrasts that with eroticism, which adds imagination, playfulness, and intention to make intimacy feel poetic and alive.
How Small Gestures Become Erotic
- A simple act like a kiss can be mere biology or become erotic when slowed, lingered, and filled with desire.
- Amanda uses the kiss example to show eroticism is about energy, intention, and feeling seen by your partner.
Aliveness Explains Infidelity
- Eroticism explains why affairs often feel 'alive'—people describe vibrancy more than better sex.
- Amanda cites Esther Perel's research: aliveness comes from feeling desired and stepping out of the mundane, not the affair itself.