Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast Foreplay Replay - Sue Johnson Talks Sex!
Apr 6, 2026
Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy and bestselling author, joins to explore how attachment shapes desire. She shares stories about couples, trauma, and how emotional safety renews passion. Conversations tackle patterns like pursuer/withdrawer, men opening through sex, and reframing sexual problems as calls for connection.
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How Sue Johnson And George Faller First Connected
- Sue Johnson flew to New York to train George Faller and his staff after he emailed her for help following 9/11.
- George recounts observing Sue role-play at a San Diego training and realizing he could apply her methods directly from her book.
Relationship Problems Are A Dance
- Sue Johnson reframes relationship problems as a dance driven by emotional music rather than blaming one partner.
- Identifying the predictable dance (pursuer–withdrawer, etc.) lets couples see mutual creation of conflict and stop blaming each other.
Emotional Safety Fuels Erotic Play
- Emotional safety and erotic passion are not opposites; safety actually enables playful eroticism.
- When partners feel secure they can relax into their bodies, talk about longing, and renew passion over time.
