Sex for Saints Episode 381 - Bad Marriage Advice
Aug 8, 2025
Monica Tanner, a marriage coach, podcaster, and author of Bad Marriage Advice who trains couples in relational skills. She debunks common marriage mantras and traces how inherited templates shape unions. They tackle sex framed by obligation, why ‘happy wife, happy life’ backfires, practical repair rituals, and when removing divorce as an option can harm relationships.
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Sponge For Seasoned Couples Led To Bad Advice
- Monica lacked healthy marriage templates due to parental divorces and soaked up seasoned couples' advice early on.
- She discovered much well-meaning advice felt logical but proved harmful once applied to modern marriage dynamics.
Divorce Off The Table Undermines Choice
- Treating divorce as impossible removes partners' incentive to change and can trap someone in an unchosen relationship.
- Monica Tanner describes a husband unable to threaten leaving, which left his wife with no motivation to attend therapy or take accountability.
Reevaluate Your Marriage Annually By Choice
- Regularly evaluate your marriage by choice, not obligation, for example with an annual check-in to discuss renewal and improvements.
- Monica and her husband take a trip near their anniversary to ask, 'How are we doing? Do we want to renew?'
