Sex for Saints Episode 326 - Mining for Conflict to Increase Intimacy
Jul 19, 2024
A frank conversation about actively seeking out underlying relationship tensions to keep intimacy healthy. Short, practical steps are shared for spotting and addressing hidden issues early. Real-life examples cover time, sex, money, and mismatched expectations. The focus is on creating safe check-ins, better listening, and long-term trust.
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Why You Should Dig For Hidden Relationship Issues
- Mining for conflict means proactively digging up underlying issues before they grow.
- Amanda Lauder compares relationships to a garden where unattended roots and weeds silently sabotage long-term intimacy.
Seven Practical Steps To Mine For Conflict
- Use a seven-step framework: be proactive, create safety, address small issues early, use I-statements, listen actively, deepen understanding, and build trust.
- Amanda lists each step and explains how they reduce defensiveness and grow intimacy.
Do Reflective Conversations After Arguments
- After a disagreement, hold a reflective conversation to identify triggers and plan how to handle similar situations differently.
- Amanda uses a spending-argument example and suggests brainstorming solutions like a discretionary allowance within the budget.