Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay Reactivity in Neurodiverse Relationships-Jill Corvelli
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Jul 30, 2024 Jill Corvelli, a licensed professional counselor and founder of the Neurodiverse Partners Institute, dives into the challenges of reactivity in neurodiverse relationships. She explains how chronic reactivity can undermine communication and connection. Jill identifies ASD and neurotypical partner triggers and reviews primitive reactive strategies like fight and flight responses. She introduces the ND Compass methodology, emphasizing curiosity over judgment, and shares practical tools to lower reactivity, enhance understanding, and promote healthy relationships.
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Neurotype Differences Produce Predictable Triggers
- ASD and NT brain differences create predictable triggers like sensory overload, literal speech, and delayed processing.
- Those differences often produce partner loneliness, misread intentions, and reactivity cycles.
NT Partners Often Resort To Anger For Influence
- Neurotypical partners often experience chronic resentment, loneliness, and use fear or anger to be heard.
- This overuse of emotion as leverage deepens reactivity and undermines trust.
Ego-State Imbalance Fuels Disconnection
- Partners can overuse the 'parent' ego state and lose connection to their adult and child modes.
- That controlling stance increases disconnection and fuels reactivity in relationships.