
Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay Autistic Loving-Supporting Autistic People With Relationships and Sexuality-Claire Bates
Dec 16, 2025
Claire Bates, a neurodivergent researcher and founder of the UK Supported Loving Network, promotes better social care for sexuality and relationships. She discusses research findings, the need for autism-informed, nonjudgmental staff attitudes, gaps in sex and relationship education, safety and abuse prevention, and the importance of autism-specific workshops and peer spaces.
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Research Gap For Autistic Adults With Support
- Claire Bates found there was little research or resources for autistic adults without learning disabilities who receive social care in the UK.
- She recruited autistic researchers and an advisory group to shape the project and training pack.
Staff Often Provide Informal Relationship Help
- Autistic participants often used paid staff informally for relationship questions rather than expecting formal workshops.
- Staff helped with practical tasks like dating profiles and interpreting social cues when asked.
Train Staff To Be Nonjudgmental And Informed
- Train staff to be non-judgmental and understand autistic communication differences, not deficits.
- Embrace the double empathy concept and avoid blaming autistic people for communication breakdowns.
