Nope! We're Not Monogamous The Real Glow-Up: Self-Love, Desire, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, EP. 144
Opening a relationship can feel empowering… and activating.
A lot of people expect ethical non-monogamy or polyamory to feel freeing right away. Instead, it often brings up jealousy, comparison, attachment wounds, and questions about self-worth.
If you’ve ever thought:
“Why am I confident everywhere else but spiraling in my relationship?”
“Why does non-monogamy trigger my insecurities?”
“How do I feel secure and desirable while practicing ENM?”
This episode is for you.
Relationship coach Ellecia Paine talks with clinical sexologist and therapist Dr. Joy Berkheimer about confidence, desire, body image, attachment, and emotional regulation in ethical non-monogamy.
Together they explore how ENM can become a path toward deeper self-trust, sexual empowerment, and real self-love.
This conversation blends therapy, lived experience, and practical wisdom for women navigating open relationships, polyamory, and personal growth.
🔥 In this episode, you’ll learn:
• How Dr. Joy discovered non-monogamy through swinging and polyamory
• Why swingers spaces can be surprisingly consent-focused and body-positive
• How jealousy and comparison show up in ENM (and what they’re actually pointing to)
• The role of attachment styles and early relationship experiences
• How to explore desire without shame
• Why community and support groups matter in non-monogamy
• What triads/throuples teach us about boundaries and emotional needs
• How self-love and sexual confidence impact relationship security
• What a “glow-up” really means in relationships and personal growth
• Practical ways to build confidence while practicing ethical non-monogamy
👤 About Dr. Joy Berkheimer
Dr. Joy Berkheimer is a clinical sexologist, licensed therapist, and relationship coach who helps women reconnect with desire, confidence, and embodied self-trust.
Instagram: @glowyourgoddess
YouTube: Dear Dr. Joy
Website: joyberkheimer.com
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