Dharmapunx NYC The Spiritual Bypass [note: editing a little jumpy; I was sick while giving the talk, so edited out the coughing and sniffing as much as possible]
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Apr 16, 2026 A talk on attachment styles and how early caregiving shapes our need for safety. An exploration of spiritual bypassing and common practices used to numb grief, shame, and loneliness. A critique of performative bliss in some contemplative communities. Practical guidance on feeling emotions, using meditation to investigate affect, and leaning on community for healing.
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Distrust From Fake Spiritual Bliss
- Josh Korda recounts feeling distrust toward Buddhist and yogic communities where people performed a false blissful affect.
- He describes a pervasive inauthentic
Don't Retreat Into Silence Right After A Breakup
- Avoid using silence or solitary retreats immediately after acute emotional events like breakups.
- Josh Korda warns people can't process pain alone in isolation and that community is what supports emotional processing.
Meditation Is For Seeing Emotions Not Numbing Them
- Meditation downregulates the nervous system but wasn't meant to suppress emotions; it's for observing and learning what boundary or change is needed.
- Suppressing feelings prolongs suffering via unconscious pressure and physiological arousal.