Kingdom Sexuality 278: Is The Mental Load Killing Your Sex Life? with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
Mar 10, 2026
Dr. Morgan Cutlip, clinical psychologist and author focused on relationships and the mental load, joins to unpack invisible household work. She explains the three domains of mental labor and how it drains desire. Short, practical strategies are shared for renegotiation, narration experiments, appreciation practices, and ADHD-friendly structures to restore closeness.
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How Motherhood Sparked The Better Share
- Morgan Cutlip became motivated to write The Better Share after feeling bulldozed by motherhood and noticing resentment toward her husband.
- Her experience led her to name the mental load, externalize it, and create pro-relationship tools rather than blaming men.
Mental Load Steals Cognitive Space
- The mental load is a continual, invisible running to-do list that occupies cognitive real estate.
- Dr. Morgan Cutlip explains it reduces patience, creativity, memory, and even access to sexual desire because the brain is crowded with 'open tabs.'
The Triple Threat Explains Burnout
- The mental load comprises three overlapping domains: physical tasks, cognitive tasks, and emotional labor.
- Cutlip calls their overlap the 'triple threat' and notes most household tasks unpack into energy from all three domains, explaining burnout.
