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1KHO 701: Charismatic Adults | Dr. Robert Brooks, Raising Resilient Children

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Feb 5, 2026

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Robert Brooks

Dr. Robert Brooks, Harvard-trained psychologist and resilience expert known for strengths-based parenting, joins to explore honoring children’s islands of competence. He explains how charismatic adults help kids gather strength. Short conversations cover empathy-first discipline, small social moments that build resilience, and how parents can model healthy screen and AI habits.

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ADVICE

Join Their Interest

Accommodate your child's interests by joining them rather than forcing yours onto them.
Shared activities (like an art class) build connection and let parents witness their child's joy.

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INSIGHT

Power Of A Steady Adult

Resilience is rooted in positive relationships and at least one adult who "gathers strength" from a child.
That adult presence reliably predicts a child's ability to overcome adversity.

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ADVICE

Be Described On Purpose

Intentionally ask what words you want your children to use about you and act to earn those words.
Perform regular, small behaviors that align with your desired reputation (e.g., calm, caring).

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Shift from Problems to Strengths

01:54 • 3min

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Islands of Competence Explained

04:46 • 4min

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Honoring Unconventional Strengths

09:00 • 5min

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Charismatic Adults and Gathering Strength

13:43 • 2min

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Empathy as Foundational Skill

Empathy in Discipline

19:00 • 1min

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Why Empathy Changes Discipline

20:13 • 6min

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Small Interactions and Weak Ties

26:06 • 7min

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Knowing Your Child's Triggers

Accommodate Children's Passions

38:31 • 3min

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Letting Go in Adolescence

41:24 • 4min

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Balancing Supervision and Independence

45:31 • 2min

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Screens, AI, and Problem Solving

47:08 • 5min

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Parents Must Model Screen Limits

52:11 • 2min

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Mattering: Feeling Valued and Adding Value

54:31 • 3min

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Practical Ways to Help Kids Contribute

Raising resilient children

Seven steps to improve your child's social skills

Angry children, worried parents

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Understanding and managing children's classroom behavior

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Tenacity and Children, Nurturing the Seven Instincts for Lifetime Success

Robert Brooks

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Finding the Calm Child Within

Robert Brooks

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Seven steps to help families manage anger

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Interventions to enhance relationship

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The charismatic advisor in conversation

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Seven steps to help your child worry less

Raising a Self-Disciplined Child

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Play Therapy

Virginia M. Axline

Harvard-trained psychologist and resilience expert Dr. Robert Brooks has spent decades watching what helps kids thrive and also what breaks them down. In this conversation with Ginny Yurich, he flips the script from “what’s wrong” to what’s strong: how to spot and honor your child’s islands of competence, why resilience is rooted in at least one steady adult a child can “gather strength” from, and how empathy changes everything from discipline to screen habits to the way we speak when kids melt down. You’ll walk away with language you can use today, a fresh way to think about technology and AI without panic, and a deeper reminder that children don’t need perfect parents but they do need present ones who help them feel valued, capable, and truly known.