The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett The Speaking Coach: The One Word All Liars Use! Stop Saying This Word, It's Making You Sound Weak! The More You Do This, The More You Sound Like A Liar!
Mar 17, 2025
02:18:24
How do you communicate like a top lawyer and command respect? Jefferson Fisher reveals the courtroom-tested tricks that win cases AND everyday conversations
Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer, communication expert, and host of ‘The Jefferson Fisher Podcast’, where he teaches how to communicate with confidence. He is also the bestselling author of the upcoming book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’.
In this conversation, Jefferson and Steven discuss topics such as, how to make people agree with you instantly, the body language tricks that make you sound powerful, the habits that make you sound like a liar, and how to stop people from walking all over you.
00:00 Intro
02:17 Who Is Jefferson Fisher and What Is His Mission?
02:41 What Is a Trial Attorney?
03:24 My Job Is Convincing People to Believe Me
03:54 Where Jefferson Learned His Skills
04:57 Why Communication Matters
06:48 The Importance of Being a 10/10 Communicator
08:06 Negative Feelings From Poor Communication
09:00 Why Do People Listen to Jefferson? Why Do They Come to Him?
10:01 First Impressions vs. the Next Conversations
11:32 The Pause and Breathing Technique (Actionable)
17:18 Making Others Trust You
22:45 How Insecurities Affect Your Communication
24:24 How to Say Anything With Confidence
28:54 Why You Need to Say Fewer Words
33:00 Having an Assertive Voice
35:50 What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common?
37:19 Say Things to Connect
40:01 Should Our Aim Be to Win the Argument?
42:30 Why Winning the Argument Can Feel Bitter-Sweet
45:31 How to Have an Effective Conversation
52:23 How the Past and Your Identity Can Trigger You
58:50 What to Do When You're Disrespected
1:07:11 Why People Are Rude to You
1:14:50 How to Prepare for Any Difficult Conversation
1:17:28 Pause for a Second When You're Being Disrespected
1:25:50 Ads
1:26:49 The Importance of Body Language
1:30:18 Famous Cases Supporting This Body Language Principle
1:35:54 The Counterintuitive Technique to Win in Life
1:41:04 Become a Master of Small Talk
1:44:39 What I Learned From Abraham Lincoln
1:47:25 You Control the Power of the Tongue
1:49:13 How to Implement All the Tricks and Advice Into Your Life
1:51:09 Ads
1:53:19 How to Say No
2:02:23 Filler Words
2:07:02 What You Say to Your Kid Will Have a Huge Impact
2:10:07 What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?
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Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes
My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook
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Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer, communication expert, and host of ‘The Jefferson Fisher Podcast’, where he teaches how to communicate with confidence. He is also the bestselling author of the upcoming book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’.
In this conversation, Jefferson and Steven discuss topics such as, how to make people agree with you instantly, the body language tricks that make you sound powerful, the habits that make you sound like a liar, and how to stop people from walking all over you.
00:00 Intro
02:17 Who Is Jefferson Fisher and What Is His Mission?
02:41 What Is a Trial Attorney?
03:24 My Job Is Convincing People to Believe Me
03:54 Where Jefferson Learned His Skills
04:57 Why Communication Matters
06:48 The Importance of Being a 10/10 Communicator
08:06 Negative Feelings From Poor Communication
09:00 Why Do People Listen to Jefferson? Why Do They Come to Him?
10:01 First Impressions vs. the Next Conversations
11:32 The Pause and Breathing Technique (Actionable)
17:18 Making Others Trust You
22:45 How Insecurities Affect Your Communication
24:24 How to Say Anything With Confidence
28:54 Why You Need to Say Fewer Words
33:00 Having an Assertive Voice
35:50 What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common?
37:19 Say Things to Connect
40:01 Should Our Aim Be to Win the Argument?
42:30 Why Winning the Argument Can Feel Bitter-Sweet
45:31 How to Have an Effective Conversation
52:23 How the Past and Your Identity Can Trigger You
58:50 What to Do When You're Disrespected
1:07:11 Why People Are Rude to You
1:14:50 How to Prepare for Any Difficult Conversation
1:17:28 Pause for a Second When You're Being Disrespected
1:25:50 Ads
1:26:49 The Importance of Body Language
1:30:18 Famous Cases Supporting This Body Language Principle
1:35:54 The Counterintuitive Technique to Win in Life
1:41:04 Become a Master of Small Talk
1:44:39 What I Learned From Abraham Lincoln
1:47:25 You Control the Power of the Tongue
1:49:13 How to Implement All the Tricks and Advice Into Your Life
1:51:09 Ads
1:53:19 How to Say No
2:02:23 Filler Words
2:07:02 What You Say to Your Kid Will Have a Huge Impact
2:10:07 What Would You Tell Your Younger Self?
Follow Jefferson:
Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/Uh6ulIkkJRb
YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/c9fYOfmkJRb
You can pre-order Jefferson’s book, ‘The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/xO1NLrikJRb
Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes
My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook
You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb
Follow me:
https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb
Sponsors:
Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY
Vivobarefoot - https://vivobarefoot.com/DOAC with code DOAC20 for 20% off
Perfect Ted - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theexperienceplus.substack.com