In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex BDSM, Choking & Aftercare: A Kink Masterclass (ft. Amanda Dames)
Nov 6, 2025
Amanda Dames, a kink consultant and former dominatrix, shares her insights on safe practices in kink and BDSM. She explains the importance of power dynamics, discussing everything from negotiating scenes to understanding core desires behind kinks. Amanda offers practical safety tips for choking and bondage, highlighting aftercare's critical role. They also touch on the rising trend of male chastity and how to approach discussions about kink with partners, ensuring mutual pleasure and consent throughout the experience.
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Core Desire Drives Power Exchange
- Power exchange is a common kink driven by core desires like punishment, being seen, or feeling safe.
- Amanda Dames uses core desires to align partners' needs so both can have their needs met.
Negotiate Before You Play
- Negotiate before play: start with what you know you want and set clear boundaries.
- Then expand slowly by exploring edges and checking consent while you play.
Turning A Trip Around With A Simple Scene
- Alexa told a story of caging and commanding a tall partner to improve a week of sex.
- She used a cock cage, blindfold, panty gag and rules to make the dynamic intensely satisfying.