Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex Why Sex Feels Hard (& How to Make it Amazing Again), #600
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Mar 23, 2026 Hannah Nitz, co-host and conversational partner who brings pastoral and practical perspective. They explore why sex can feel like obligation, the physical and emotional barriers that make it painful or shut down desire, and how life stages, shame, and media myths distort expectations. The conversation offers hopeful, practical next steps and resources for couples seeking change.
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Intentionally Pursue Sexual Health
- Do pursue sexual health intentionally instead of assuming it will fix itself.
- Juli advises recognizing this area is worth pursuing because it bonds couples and requires active work rather than passive hope.
Parenting Season Often Lowers Desire
- Desire often declines across early marriage seasons, especially with young children and exhaustion.
- Hannah Nitz and Juli describe parents touched all day who then resist sharing their bodies once kids sleep, making rekindling difficult.
When Couples Become Roommates Not Lovers
- Loss of sexual intimacy often feels like becoming roommates rather than lovers, signaling deeper relational loss.
- Juli explains couples can be great parenting partners yet miss the unique bonding sex provides.
