Needs vs Wants in Non-Monogamy: There’s No Prize for Needing Less EP.145

Struggling to tell the difference between needs vs wants in non-monogamy?

If you’ve learned to be “low maintenance” and tolerate a lot, you might be minimizing your emotional needs without realizing it.

In this episode, we explore how trauma, people-pleasing, and polyamory culture can teach us to need less, and why you’re allowed to want more.

There’s no prize for needing less.
You’re not needy. You’re human. 

What You’ll Learn

• Why “needs vs wants” is the wrong question to ask
• How childhood conditioning and trauma affect your ability to ask for more
• The hidden cost of calling yourself “low maintenance”
• How this shows up specifically in non-monogamy and polyamory
• Better questions to ask your nervous system instead
• How to stop disappearing in your relationships
• Why your desires deserve space too

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