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The Gottmans: “Contempt DESTROYS Your Immune System” - Are You REALLY Listening to Your Partner??

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Oct 8, 2024
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John Gottman
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Julie Gottman
Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship researcher, and Dr. Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist, share invaluable insights on relationship dynamics. They reveal how contempt can devastate your health and discuss the importance of emotional intelligence for love. Debunking myths, they explain that resolving conflict effectively is crucial. The Gottmans introduce their methods for enhancing intimacy and provide practical advice, including the necessity of small affectionate rituals and the significance of understanding differing conflict styles.
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INSIGHT

Seven Foundations Of Stable Marriage

  • Seven principles underlie stable marriages: love maps, fondness, turning toward, positive perspective, conflict management, honoring dreams, shared meaning.
  • Trust and commitment are the foundation behind these principles.
INSIGHT

Most Fights Are Failed Connection Bids

  • Most fights are about nothing; they are failed bids for connection packaged as conflict.
  • The topic often masks an unmet emotional need.
ADVICE

Keep Conflicts Five-to-One Positive

  • Maintain a 5:1 positive-to-negative exchange ratio during a 15-minute conflict.
  • Use validating, curious statements like 'Help me understand that' to stay collaborative.
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