Do You F*cking Mind? The Reset You Actually Need - Day 2. You Don't Need a New Life, You Need New Standards
Jan 12, 2026
A psychology-led mini-reset about raising personal standards instead of reinventing your life. Short practical strategies for clarifying what you want and testing standards. Real-life examples on dating, work, and family boundaries. Tips for communicating calmly, leading by example, and turning small actions into bigger change.
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Dissatisfaction Is Usually A Standards Problem
- Most dissatisfaction comes from low standards, not needing a new life; raising standards creates a clear baseline for treatment and behavior.
- Alexis Fernandez: setting a bare minimum for others and yourself shifts who you attract and stops repeated draining patterns.
Tell Dating Matches Your Rule About Replies
- Do state your expectations early in dating and enforce them by action, not just hope someone will change.
- Example: tell someone who leaves you on read that two-day replies mean you assume disinterest, then move on if it repeats.
Write A Short List Of Standards Tonight
- Do list standards across categories: dating, health, sleep, work, family, friendships, and daily habits.
- Alexis recommends writing top three standards now and updating them incrementally as clarity grows.