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Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Orgasms – John Gray with Dave Asprey : 716

Jun 30, 2020

In this engaging discussion, John Gray, author of the iconic book "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus," shares insights on relationship dynamics. He explores how hormonal balance plays a crucial role in intimacy, revealing that low testosterone can lead to irritability in men. Gray also dives into the complexities of female sexuality, discussing multi-orgasmic capabilities and the importance of emotional connection. Additionally, he provides practical tips on managing male arousal and enhancing pleasure through targeted muscle control, blending ancient wisdom and modern science.

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INSIGHT

Prolactin and Testosterone Recovery

Prolactin lowers dopamine, reducing sexual urges after ejaculation.
After six days of abstinence, testosterone doubles, creating an "alpha man" effect.

ADVICE

Maintaining Passion

Occasional ejaculation keeps sex life vibrant, similar to fasting with food.
Frequent sex without ejaculation is possible and beneficial.

INSIGHT

Orgasm and Hormones

Orgasm is a surge of pleasure and love, biologically linked to estrogen.
Men require significantly more testosterone for arousal and love.

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To My Listeners: I recorded this podcast in Park City, Utah, before coronavirus halted travel.

This episode of Bulletproof Radio is quite a ride–both fun and fascinating. Consider it sex ed for grownups taught by a former monk who was celibate for nine years. You’ll be surprised at how much you’ll learn.

My guest is John Gray, author of one of the most well-known and trusted relationship books of all time, “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.” It’s been recognized as a top 10 “most influential books” of the last quarter century. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

For more than 20 years, he’s helped couples deepen their intimacy and rejuvenate their love lives. His newest title (of nearly two dozen books), “Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Today's Complex World,” covers love and sex in our modern life.

His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. You don’t want to miss our discussion of the many layers of sexuality and how men and women approach intimacy differently.

Hormonal balance plays a big role in sexual health. “Just as a rule of thumb,” John says, “anytime a man is passive, irritable, depressed, angry, frustrated, grumpy, his testosterone is low.” Women are affected by rising and falling estrogen levels, as well. Biologically, hormones rule sex lives, so it’s important that we recognize what our bodies are doing.

On a practical level, John walks listeners through nine types of orgasm, the benefits of sex without ejaculating and how people can become desensitized by porn or overstimulation.

“When you're with someone in physical touching,” John says, “there's a lot of different hormones that get produced to keep sex from being overstimulating because anything which is overstimulating destimulates you, desensitizes your ability to be turned on to your partner.”

He also offers some interesting tips and techniques that can increase both your partner’s sexual pleasure and your own.

Enjoy the show! And get more resources at Dave.Asprey/podcasts.

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