The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno The Season 2 Debrief: A Live Q&A with Julie
Feb 3, 2026
A live Q&A unpacks shame, regression, and why healing is rarely linear. Emotional safety and EFT vs directive approaches get contrasted. They explore attachment patterns, avoidant responses, and when to stay or reevaluate. Practical topics include rebuilding trust after postpartum abandonment, assessing trauma, and resources for grief and shame work.
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Disorganized Versus Anxious Patterns
- Brian showed some capacity for self-reflection, placing him toward disorganized rather than purely anxious attachment.
- Disorganized attachments often struggle more to self-reflect when shame is activated.
Teach Vulnerability To Low-Conflict Upbringing
- Help partners who didn't learn vulnerability by teaching them to name feelings and practice small vulnerabile moments.
- Replace sneaky or defensive behavior with clear requests once safety is established.
Validate Before You Defend Or Apologize
- When someone shares pain, respond with "I see you" and stay with their emotion before mentioning your own hurt.
- Delay apologies or self-focused replies until after you’ve fully validated the other's feeling.