Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships 8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Make Dating Fun Again (Day #3)
Dec 18, 2025
Join positive psychology coach Jeff Harry, the founder of Rediscover Your Play, as he explores the joys of playfulness in dating. He emphasizes transforming dating from a chore into a fun adventure, sharing creative date ideas that spark deeper connections. Jeff advocates for embracing quirks, engaging in improv techniques like 'yes, and,' and prioritizing enjoyment over results. Discover how playful interactions can enhance relationships and keep curiosity alive, allowing you to navigate dating with a light heart and open mind.
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Filter With Shared Play
- Avoid forced play; ask about shared fun when texting to filter who is willing to experiment.
- Meet people in activities aligned with your values instead of defaulting to bars or predictable spots.
Play Reveals More Than Questions
- Words are only ~10% of communication while tone and body language dominate connection.
- Shared experiential play reveals who someone is faster than Q&A-heavy interviewing.
Try A Small Courageous Experiment
- Do the playful thing that scares you even if it feels weird; experiment with silent shared activities like reading side-by-side.
- Use 20 seconds of courage to try a small risk that reveals compatibility.