The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett The Sex Expert (Esther Perel): The Relationship Crisis No One Talks About That's Killing Your Sex Life!
Jun 12, 2025
01:28:37
Swipe left, feel empty, and wonder why? Esther Perel reveals the hidden truths behind the dating crisis, loneliness, and the shocking decline in sex and intimacy.
Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs’.
She explains:
Why MEN Over 30 Aren’t Having Sex Anymore.
The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship.
How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage.
Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life.
The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce.
00:00 Intro
02:29 Esther’s Main Concern About Human Connection
03:22 What’s the Consequence of Losing Social Skills?
04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays?
07:13 The Value of Rejection
07:52 Rejection from the Apps
08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don’t Work for You
11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder?
13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout
14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society
15:57 Loneliness Today
17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays?
20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships
21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction
28:07 Questions from Steven’s Friends
28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity?
31:17 Attraction with a Partner
33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible?
37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability
39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships
42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long
44:52 Ads
45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before?
48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship?
49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far?
51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women?
59:08 What Is Social Confidence?
1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning?
1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection?
1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace?
1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots?
Follow Esther:
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Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SJEMaD
Website - https://bit.ly/4kTR8ca
Podcast - https://bit.ly/3HCfnNv
You can purchase Esther’s new 100 question game, ‘Where Should We Begin? At Work’, here: https://bit.ly/4kF0F7h
You can purchase Esther’s book ‘The State of Affairs’, here: https://amzn.to/4l0KaSv
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Esther Perel is a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, widely recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. She is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The State of Affairs’.
She explains:
Why MEN Over 30 Aren’t Having Sex Anymore.
The SEX GAME that could Save Your Relationship.
How CHILDHOOD TRAUMA is Secretly Sabotaging Your Marriage.
Why Investing in AUTHENTIC CONNECTION is the key to a Fulfilling Life.
The ONE RED FLAG that Predicts Divorce.
00:00 Intro
02:29 Esther’s Main Concern About Human Connection
03:22 What’s the Consequence of Losing Social Skills?
04:19 Is Online Dating the Only Choice Nowadays?
07:13 The Value of Rejection
07:52 Rejection from the Apps
08:48 What to Do If Dating Apps Don’t Work for You
11:26 Is Too Much Choice Making Dating Harder?
13:01 How to Cope with Online Dating Burnout
14:30 The Changing Role of Masculinity and Its Impact on Society
15:57 Loneliness Today
17:17 Why Do People Have Less Sex Nowadays?
20:17 Importance of Deep Connection in Relationships
21:51 How Phone Use Affects Connection and Sexual Attraction
28:07 Questions from Steven’s Friends
28:53 Is It Always a Good Idea to Admit to Infidelity?
31:17 Attraction with a Partner
33:36 Is Long-Term Faithfulness in a Relationship Possible?
37:06 Importance of Taking Accountability
39:21 How People Are Energizing Their Relationships
42:59 How to Revive Intimacy When Gone for So Long
44:52 Ads
45:55 Do People Enjoy Sex Less Than Before?
48:15 Do I Have to Work on Myself Before I Can Have a Good Relationship?
49:49 Has the Culture of Self-Love Gone Too Far?
51:19 Are Men Emasculated by the Success of Women?
59:08 What Is Social Confidence?
1:02:56 What Gives a Traumatic Experience Meaning?
1:14:10 Would You Delete Mobile Phones to Help Connection?
1:17:08 Can Social Connection Principles Apply to a Workplace?
1:22:06 How Are You Going to Adapt to a World of AI and Robots?
Follow Esther:
Instagram - https://bit.ly/4l2Et6S
Twitter - https://bit.ly/3SJEMaD
Website - https://bit.ly/4kTR8ca
Podcast - https://bit.ly/3HCfnNv
You can purchase Esther’s new 100 question game, ‘Where Should We Begin? At Work’, here: https://bit.ly/4kF0F7h
You can purchase Esther’s book ‘The State of Affairs’, here: https://amzn.to/4l0KaSv
The Diary Of A CEO:
Join DOAC circle here -https://doaccircle.com/
Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp
Get email updates: https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt
Follow Steven: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb
Sponsors:
Stan Store - Visit https://link.stan.store/joinstanchallenge to join the challenge!
Ekster - http://partner.ekster.com/DOAC with code STEVEN
Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY
#EstherPerel #DatingCrisis #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theexperienceplus.substack.com