On Attachment #18: Relationship Red Flags & Green Flags
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Jul 26, 2022 They unpack five relationship red flags and their healthier green-flag alternatives. Topics include clarity about where you stand, trust and commitment, and how integrated partners are into each other’s lives. They explore fear of time apart versus maintaining separate lives, and the difference between avoiding tough conversations and building a culture of openness and repair.
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Ambiguity Breeds Insecurity In Relationships
- Not knowing where you stand creates a relationship built on insecurity rather than agreement.
- Stephanie Rigg highlights that avoidance of the conversation breeds mismatched expectations and eventual hurt, even after years together.
Agree On The Relationship Container
- Build a foundation of mutual trust and commitment by agreeing on the container and boundaries of your relationship.
- Stephanie says commitment can mean being 'two feet in' now, not promising forever, which stabilizes expectations.
Secretive Relationships Live In A Fragile Bubble
- A relationship that exists only in private is a fragile 'bubble' and reduces security.
- Stephanie notes lack of introductions to friends/family and guardedness signal low integration and weak anchors.