How to Accept What You Cannot Change: Anxious Times, Part 3 (#389)

I'm joined by my co-host Kristen Tideman for the third installment of the Anxious Times series. We dig into Emmy van Dersen's concept of "the necessary" — the hard limits baked into existence that we can't change, only accept — and explore how resisting these limits is one of the biggest drivers of unhealthy anxiety, whether you're navigating religious deconstruction, a new diagnosis, or just being alive in a chaotic world.

In the Patron-only second half, Kristen shares the raw, emotional story of her MS diagnosis as a lived case study in running headfirst into hard limits, and we explore what it looks like to resist or deny the necessary — from anti-aging culture to political utopianism to religious change.

Highlights:

• Defining "the necessary" (hard limits)

• Mortality, uncertainty, embodiment as givens

• Kristen's MS diagnosis and processing

• Religious change and false certainty

• Acceptance ≠ approval or minimizing

Anxious Times Episode Part 1⁠

⁠Anxious Times Episode Part 2

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