The Meaning of Men S4, Ep7: The Meaning of Raising Boys | Helping sons thrive today
What do boys and young men actually need from us right now?
In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I sit down with Lorraine Candy — journalist, editor and bestselling author — to explore what boys really need in today’s digital, headline-driven culture.
From emotional regulation and developmental vulnerability to social media, gaming and the “toxic masculinity” narrative, this conversation cuts through the panic and brings clarity to modern parenting. Lorraine explains why boys often lag behind girls emotionally, how media messaging distorts expectations, and why blanket bans on technology rarely solve the real problem.
We explore practical tools for raising emotionally healthy boys: setting boundaries with clear consequences, building connection through rituals, repairing ruptures after conflict, and meeting boys where they are — not where we think they should be.
If you’re parenting a son — whether he’s five or fifteen — and wondering if you’re getting it right, this episode offers grounded insight, reassurance and practical strategies to help boys grow into confident, compassionate and resilient men.
In this episode you will learn:
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Why boys develop differently — and what that means for parenting
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How media narratives shape fear around masculinity
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Why connection beats control when setting boundaries
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How to talk to boys about technology and influencers
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The power of repair in strengthening your relationship
Disclaimer: Lorraine's advice is not specifically for anyone parenting neurodivergent teens or children with SEN.
Hear more from Lorraine:
Substack parenting newsletter: https://open.substack.com/pub/lorrainecandy
Lorraine's book: https://harpercollins.co.uk/products/mum-whats-wrong-with-you-101-things-only-mothers-of-teenage-girls-know-lorraine-candy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/CqkuOJeI01m/?igsh=MXB5N3d1ZzV5ZnFieg==
Timestamps:
04:05: Understanding Boys: Vulnerability and Development 06:42: The Impact of Media on Parenting Expectations 09:54: Emotional Development and Communication with Boys 12:46: The Role of Technology in Boys' Lives 15:54: Recognizing Behavioral Changes in Adolescents 18:36: Building Connections Through Rituals 21:45: Critical Thinking in Parenting: Media Influence 24:35: The Importance of Open Conversations About Emotions 33:06: Navigating the Impact of Social Media on Boys 34:45: Setting Healthy Boundaries for Teenage Boys 39:02: The Importance of Communication and Connection 41:58: Understanding Emotional Regulation in Boys 45:35: Maintaining Connections During Adolescence 50:04: Redefining Masculinity and Role Models 53:49: Reassurance for Parents Raising Boy