The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose Hilary Jacobs Hendel on How to Process Our Emotions
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Dec 4, 2018 Hilary Jacobs Hendel, a psychotherapist and author of 'It's Not Always Depression,' shares insights on processing emotions using her Change Triangle method. She explains how to identify core emotions like fear and joy and warns against inhibitory emotions like anxiety and guilt that can obstruct emotional clarity. Hilary also offers practical techniques for calming anxiety through grounding exercises and emphasizes the importance of supportive self-talk. Learn how to navigate your emotions toward a more authentic self!
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Inhibitory Emotions Keep Groups Stable
- Inhibitory emotions (anxiety, guilt, shame) evolved to keep groups cohesive by damping core emotions.
- When dominant, they trap emotional energy and disconnect you from yourself.
Use The Triangle Daily
- Use the Change Triangle daily whenever you feel distress or others say you're behaving disruptively.
- Apply it as a self-help map and bring in a therapist or friend when emotions are overwhelming.
Small-T Versus Big-T Trauma
- 'Trauma is trauma' but there are big-T catastrophic events and 'small-T' invisible traumas like exclusion or bullying.
- Small-T traumas leave emotions unprocessed because of lack of support, leading to chronic defenses.
