No Stupid Questions

69. How Can You Convince Someone They’re Wrong?

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Apr 5, 2026
A lively conversation about how to persuade someone who refuses to change their mind. They debate whether conceding parts of an argument helps and explore why people overestimate their own knowledge. The discussion covers why political beliefs resist facts, strategies for promoting intellectual humility, and practical ways to give and receive rejection without taking it personally.
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INSIGHT

Start By Hearing What’s True In Their View

  • Pascal and Dale Carnegie converge on the idea that letting someone fully explain and affirming parts of their view lowers defensiveness.
  • Angela and Stephen note there's little direct randomized evidence testing this exact approach in charged ideological debates.
INSIGHT

Explain To Reveal Overconfidence

  • The illusion of explanatory depth shows people overestimate their understanding until asked to explain, which lowers confidence.
  • Stephen uses zipper/sink/pen examples to illustrate how explanation tasks reveal weak knowledge and promote humility.
ANECDOTE

Admitting A Statistical Error Felt Like Exposure Therapy

  • Angela recounts a pre-registration statistical-model dispute where she was sure she was right until collaborating convinced her otherwise.
  • Admitting “I was wrong” felt hard but gradually easier through repeated practice.
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