182: Help! Does My Crush Like Me? | In The Trenches

Jan 13, 2026

In this captivating discussion, Sabrina tackles the complexities of modern dating. From navigating workplace flirtation to understanding mixed signals, she emphasizes the importance of self-trust. She breaks down the risks of 'going with the flow' and advocates for direct communication in relationships. Insights on expressing love first and interpreting delayed responses add depth. The conversation also touches on emotional unavailability and the need for clarity in intentions, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating scene.

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ANECDOTE

Saying 'What Are We?' Got A Clear Answer

Sabrina shared a story where she asked a guy if it was friendship or more and he said 'friend vibe.'
They stayed friends and both moved on without drama.

INSIGHT

Texting Is A Low-Effort Signal

Texting behavior does not reliably reflect someone's intentions or commitment level.
Sabrina calls texting the lowest-effort signal and warns against overvaluing it.

ADVICE

Choose Clarity Over 'Going With The Flow'

Do stop 'going with the flow' when it leaves you unsure; it's often self-abandonment.
Sabrina advises choosing clarity and asking for what you need instead of passive waiting.

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In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn’t say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity.

From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you’re stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone’s intentions, or struggling to trust yourself in dating, this episode is for you.

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Chapters

00:00 – Why You Don’t Trust Yourself in Dating

04:18 – In The Trenches: Mixed Signals With a Coworker

09:42 – Flirting at Work vs Real Romantic Interest

14:36 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Self-Abandonment

18:55 – Saying “I Love You” First and Rejection Sensitivity

23:44 – Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, and Fear of Loss

28:31 – Reconnecting With an Emotionally Unavailable Ex

34:52 – When Chemistry Isn’t Intention or Commitment

40:05 – Dating Apps, Bans, and Being Honest With a New Partner

44:05 – Final Takeaways: Clarity, Boundaries, and Self-Trust

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