
In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex The Future of Sex, Post-Nut Clarity & Kink Curiosity (ft. Hawthorne)
Mar 26, 2026
58:28
Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with kink performer, educator, and co-founder of Hit Me Up, Hawthorne, to talk about the future of sex, switches, kink exploration, nipple clamps, and the very real phenomenon of post-nut clarity.
We get into how sex parties are evolving beyond just hooking up, and why community might be the most important part of modern sexuality. From mixers and workshops to co-working spaces (yes, really), we explore how people are using these environments to build real connections, not just get laid.
We also talk about:
- Why community comes before sex (and how that changes everything)
- How kink and non-monogamy have become more visible
- The rise of switches and why rigid dom/sub roles are fading
- What people still get wrong about power dynamics
- Post-nut clarity, what actually happens psychologically and physically after orgasm, and why so many people completely drop the ball right after they come
- Why private orgies > big parties (sometimes)
- How to approach people at events without being weird
- The reality of running a sex party business
Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey: https://beducate.me/pd2610-alexa
