This week a caller finds herself in a porn conundrum. She likes it fine. But her boyfriend ignores her when the porn's on! And that ain't right. Also, what are Dan Savage's tastes in pornography? You'll have to listen to find out. An adventurous lass wonders if getting anally penetrated without lube will hurt her. Dan has two words for her: "anal snot." Another caller is missing the rough sex in her relationship, despite an incident that landed her boyfriend in jail. How can they get the good sex back without the genuine violence? And finally, a 21-year-old clever, kinky, generous gal has a boyfriend with limited tastes who wants to control her. Whatever should she do? WWJD? DTMFA. 206-302-2064.