Counseling Talk — A podcast by 9Marks

On Helping Singles Fight for Purity (Ep. 45)

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Mar 16, 2026
Three counselors give ten practical thoughts for unmarried Christians wrestling with sexual temptation. They discuss desires and God-given boundaries, guarding identity in Christ rather than marital status, and treating singleness as a gift for devoted service. Topics include grieving loss, building deep church friendships, common pitfalls to avoid, the value of accountability, and trusting God instead of a future spouse.
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INSIGHT

Sexual Sin Steals Futures

  • Sexual immorality steals from God's design and from other people's future relationships.
  • Garrett Kell warns you can't assume a dating partner will become your spouse and that premarital sex defrauds both current and future partners.
INSIGHT

Your Primary Identity Is In Christ

  • Identity as a Christian is primary; singleness or marriage are secondary labels.
  • Deepak Reju and Garrett Kell stress being 'in Christ' (Ephesians imagery) anchors worth and purpose beyond marital status.
ADVICE

See Singleness As A Stewarded Gift

  • Treat singleness as a present gift to steward, not a deficiency to resent.
  • Garrett Kell cites 1 Corinthians 7 and James 1 to argue singleness can secure undivided devotion to the Lord.
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